Family Constellations: A Hidden Symmetry of Love
I come from four generations of healers who practiced as homeopaths, doulas, deep intuitives, teachers, farmers, and weavers. The descendants of my ancestral line move through the world as teachers, musicians, lawyers, scientists, engineers, mathematicians, caregivers, coaches, communicators, and artists. We share the ability to see patterns in mind, body, emotions, and the soul/energy of our work.
I noticed in my family and in my own life that there were patterns that were continuing to occur. I began to recognize that there were some things that I couldn't make sense of in therapy or coaching or other modalities. Not because those modalities weren't good, they simply weren't attuned to this issue of repetitive ancestral patterns that I was trying to disrupt.
Several of the issues in my family were not even mine, but they were things that kept showing up in my life. So I started to get curious about it. On a deeply personal level, there were some themes among the women or the matrilineal people on both my mother's and father's side, and I wanted to get to the root of it to understand where these ideas or repetitive patterns came from.
Before the pandemic, I went to my first live Family Constellation session. I was so fortunate to be in a group where I could begin to see that there was this acknowledgment of an energetic field and a series of mental concepts and patterns that repeat themselves in our lives. These patterns cause us to have strange relationships with people we deeply care about or want to care about.
What are Family Constellations?
Family and Systems constellations are a form of energy work and pattern disruption primarily focused on reclaiming the symmetry of love, balance, and harmony in the energy field that bonds a system together.
Family constellation draws from a number of practices including gestalt therapy, psychotherapy, family therapy, psychodrama, internal family systems, and the belief systems of the Zulu nation. It was originally founded by psychotherapist Bert Hellinger, who spent many years as a missionary among the Zulu nation.
In an ancestral or family system, many patterns and issues unfold across generations. Ancestors pass down many viewpoints in relation to society. Over generations, they may affect how we show up and judge our experience and the experience of our ancestral line. In a system, the members of an ancestral field need 1) to feel that they belong; 2) that there is a balanced exchange; 3) that the hidden symmetry of love is being consistently revived. We work together to ensure people in your family system get what they need so you can find more space to live fully.
In family constellations, we are working to bring to light the unconscious patterns affecting you. We create new ways to understand the connections in a family system in your mind, body, and soul. The process of constellating an issue is more than reconciling ideas in your mind. It takes place at an energetic and spiritual level and therefore may have a profound effect on your body and spirit’s ability to spring forward.
I am honored to now be offering Family Constellation Sessions
I found family constellations helpful in uncovering a series of patterns in my own ancestral line that I seem to repeat. I thought there must be a solution for transmuting the energy that keeps me from releasing certain experiences around loss, illness, abundance, migration, family & intimate relationships, and many other themes.
We often have expectations of our parents, our siblings, or what we want from the world. And we don't always get them. We start to wonder about the connection between our ancestors and loneliness, addiction, disconnection from life, physical or mental illnesses, unhealthy attachments, or other things that we've been trying to eliminate from our way of life.
Family Constellations offers a way to see the things that you may be unable to see on your own about how you are relating to your family system. It gave me something that I cared deeply about – the symmetry of love that exists between human beings, not just in this lifetime, but across generations.
In 2021, I formalized my training with Constellation Facilitator Luisa Muhr and began offering private constellations with my current private and corporate coaching clients. I had not imagined how much expansion there would be when individuals had the opportunity to release, repair or revive the energetic ties that connect them to families and ancestral systems. So, in 2022, I asked my ancestors for permission to hold circles in addition to private sessions and I heard a yes.
I share why I became a Family and Systems Constellator in the IG video below.
To learn more about the sessions I’ll be offering, head over to the Family Constellations page or contact me with your questions at info@polancoconsulting.com
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